Premarital Relations

[Cindy]

I was raised modern orthodox and was pretty mych shomer negiah my entire life. My husband and I met when we were in our mid twenties and dated for 6 months before we got engaged. After we got engaged we regrettably stopped being shomer thinking we could limit our activities to kissing and touching. Unfortantly about a month before the wedding we really messed up and had intercourse. We both did teshuvah and have had a wonderful marriage
I always wondered how common is premarital sex in the frum world. am I and my husband in a small minority or is to more common

Any Thoughts?