Anything wrong with me? Ideas?

[marriedawhile]

DH and I have a wonderful relationship (almost 7 years) but I still cannot get used to pleasing him in a way that fully satisfies him.
He likes being on the giving and receiving end of licking and sucking and although I try to satisfy him I am upset to say that I can't stand it.
It's just something that I don't like. Is there anything wrong with me? Any ideas for me to get used to it?

[guesty]

Why dont u like it??????????Smell?taste?It feels wrong?

[Guest]

Which feels wrong - the giving or receiving?

[Guest]

Could you be more specific? Are you talking about 69? If you need him to be more gentle then TELL him! If you need him to move to the right or left, or slow down etc TELL him. He sounds very eager to please you and play. Yes, this is the definition of a GOOD MAN, now your job is to channel his energy so it works for you. What do you like? Do you like anything??? You sound kinda uncomfortable with your sexuality. Your probably a good BY girl who got straight A's which is really sweet except there is soooooomuch more to life that no one really mentions anything about if at all possible.

[Guest]

[quote="Guest"]Your probably a good BY girl...[/quote]

FYI, there is no correlation between being a BY girl and sexual dysfunction. Many, many BY girls have very (sexually) happy husbands and many more non-BY girls (and non-Jewish girls in general) have sexual problems and hangups. There is an entire UNIVERSE of help out in cyberspace addressing this problem. It is universal.

However, continuing to wrongfully bad-mouth BY girls based on either hearsay, rumors, a couple of cases you know, or just out of boredom IS motzi shem ra, stands out as being mean and malicios, and and really detracts from your main point.

[marriedawhile]

[quote="Guest"]Which feels wrong - the giving or receiving?[/quote]
Both.

[quote="guesty"]Why dont u like it??????????Smell?taste?It feels wrong?[/quote]
That's my question! I just find it off putting... I need your help and ideas ASAP!!!

PLEASE!

[S]

I think you need to figure out why it bothers you so much. I can only speak from my perspective - I (a guy) love giving. I enjoy the fact that it's a wonderful way to give a TON of pleasure to my partner. I like the taste, I like feeling her get turned on, I like bringing her to orgasm again and again.

For me, it's an act of love, of giving, of enjoying giving pleasure.

And when my partner returns the favor to me, I think she enjoys it for the same reasons, as well...including the fact that she enjoys feeling in complete control of my pleasure - which, I guess, is another reason i like giving.

Do you not see it like that? Do you feel that it's a "dirty" act?

[marriedawhile]

S, Thank you for your response.

I fortunately do not have any problem reaching an orgasm. My DH knows what turns me on and does a good job with that.
Going back to my previous point though, sucking and licking do not bring me to orgasm and I don't feel any pleasure in it. In fact, it may even turn me off sometimes.
I don't see it as a 'dirty act' but am sometimes repulsed by all that wetness - although at the height of excitement it doesn't bother me all that much.

Am I doing something wrong - will I ever get to like it?

[S]

It's good that you share orgasms with him - it's possible, though, that oral sex done right can bring you to another whole level. That would involve you working together with him to figure out what feels best for you. Some women prefer circles, other straight tongue strokes. For some, even light direct licking can be too intense. Others enjoy hard sucking, and even biting, of the clit (guys, ask before you do this, and work your way slowly, or you may find yourself with a VERY angry woman, who's got her legs around your neck).

Try to see it as a way of giving. I think that the more you come to see it in that way, the more you'll enjoy it - both giving and receiving.

Personally, I like the wetness...I think it's kinda fun to have her wetness dripping down my face, and she enjoys tasting her own excitement on my mouth when she kisses me.