It could be that she needs some direct guidance. Think of it as a game, where you can tell her what to do - and reward her with pleasure! I remember that I once wanted my wife to call out my name as she was reaching orgasm, but she felt a bit funny doing it...so as she got close, I slowed down, almost torturing her, until she finally did it! We both enjoyed that!
Give her direction - tell her 'now touch me here," and make sure to vocalize how good it feels, saying thingsl ike, "I love how you make me feel when you do that," grunting out, "oh, that feels so good!"
Sounds corny? Maybe, but people like to hear that.
