Darling Wife

[Loving Husband]

I have an amazing wife who I love more than life itself. She is amazing in all ways but one and that being in the bedroom. On a good week we have sex once and it is only in a missionary position and while she says she enjoys it, it really seems like she is doing me a favor. i love her and i love sex what can i do to increase her interest in sex. i was thinking of buying her a vibrator but likely she will think i am nuts and yes we have great communication and we have talked about this she says she is interested......HELP!

[guesty]

Most woman are not as interested in sex as men...They first need emotional fulfillment to be interested in sex...Please explain how long u r married?Children etc....So maybe I can give u some advice......How do u ask for sex?Do u make her feel special by complimenting her,buying her little gifts,helpng her around the house?hugs and kisses out of bedroom?

[Guest]

What is your DW's Background? Is she very frum?

How long are you married?

ages?

Have you ever listened to Rebbitzen katz's shiur?

Have you spoken to anyone (Rabbi/chossonorkallah teacher/therapist ?

[Loving Husband]

i have been married for 15 years and have 4 kids. i compliment, hug and kiss out of the bedroom and help around the house......

[S]

When you do have sex, do you get her turned on first? Kissing, touching, exploring, touching/licking/sucking her breasts and nipples...a sensual massage?

You should be able to give her a lot of pleasure, even make her orgasm, before you actually enter her.

When you ask her if she'd want to try different positions, what does she say? Does she tell you things that she likes?

[2JCM6FSD]

you do seem like a LOVING HUSBANDwho fulfills his wife emotionally.What does ur wife say about her lack of interest?Did u tell her how much it bothers u?Are u the Needy one in the relationship?

[Loving Husband]

That is the problem, when we speak about it she says she is interested however in bed it just doesnt seem that way.

[Guest]

sounds like me, i am interrested but when it comes to do it i feel tuned down, i don't know why, i am craving for good sex not just regular boring sessions... she might want you to be more provocative by showing your full man side, like pretend forcing her by holding her arms firmly (please don't hurt her), women like to feel this masculinity (not sure about spelling). but if i say it to dh, it won't turn me on because i know it is not coming from him. try to surprise her with originality, rub the clit, put one of your fingers inside her vagina to reach the g-spot while sucking breast (triple action). try it and let us know...

[guesty]

What do u want ur wife do do?What actions does she have to do to show interest?Also,if u keep begging her for sex,maybe ease up a bit so she starts asking U for it.

[Loving Husband]

I try to get her in the mood by fingering her vagina and sucking on her nipples kissing her I know she enjoys it but not enough to really get in to it.

[guesty]

how long to u have foreplay for?

[S]

You might want to start off more slowly, and even once you get to the point of fingering her and sucking her nipples, there are a lot of ways to do that. Find out what your wife likes most. I once heard a girl explaining that she likes her nipples bitten - hard. Now, not every girl likes that, and some don't even like hard sucking, You need to find out what works best for your wife.

[Loving Husband]

i would like her to do more than just lay there. i have long given up on getting a BJ but she should be an active participant. She literaly just lays there.

[guuuest]

Did u tell her that u love her much but cant continue having sex with a robot.Did u tell her that u need her to touch u and what she should do?Some woman r plain stupid naive in this area....Is ur wife naive or maybe she just doesnt realize the significanse of her behabior?

[Guest]

get The shiur from Katz also Taragin. She cannot enjoy herself fully unless she is participating by pleasuring you. You've got to get up the guts and give her instructions, stroke me like this like that, after she gets the hang of it if you see she's out of it, stop and seductively tell her it's her turn to pleasure you. When she sees how much you enjoy it she will get the point and get involved. Otherwise it's time to see someone like Rabbi Pitter.