Forum Rules: MUST READ BEFORE POSTING

[marla]

These rules will be added to and updated regularly as needed.

1. Be respectful.
A. Any disparaging, rude, insulting, or inflammatory posts will be deleted. If you have nothing respectful to post, don't post anything.
B. This site is open to all. If someone is asking about behavior you consider wrong, for any reason, please don't post why they're wrong to be doing it. The only exception is illegal or highly dangerous, life-threatening behavior.
C. If you really feel that the person's behavior is a grave violation of halacha, the polite way of saying that is "I believe that activity maybe halachically problematic, you should consult your rabbi," NOT "That's assur! You're violating halacha!" The latter will be deleted; the former will not. (There will be a separate post with greater detail on this point.)
D. NO FOUL LANGUAGE. I don't care how right your point is, if you use a dirty word to get there, it will be deleted - NOT EDITED, DELETED.
E. NO OVERLY GRAPHIC LANGUAGE. Let's try to keep it as clean as possible, please.

2. Don't feed the trolls.
A. If you suspect a post is fake, please ignore it. Don't post how fake it is or why the responding posts are wrong to be posting to a fake post. If you feel it really must be removed immediately, email Mods@calmkallahs.com and someone will investigate.
B. No posting pretending to be more than one person to "prove" your point. We will see it and delete all of posts.

3. No Professionals without credentials
A. If you are a doctor, therapist, nurse, lactation consultant, rabbi, kallah teacher, and want to post AS a professional, I need to know your credentials before you post as "Dr." or "Rabbi." I will delete your posts or change your username if I suspect you are a fraud.
B. Unless *I* specifically vouch for a poster, do not take the advice of anybody posting as a professional!
C. Please do not discuss the specifics of halacha here. Please bear in mind at all times that this forum is for ALL and thus what is acceptable for one couple may not be acceptable for another. One couple's rabbi may in fact say that something is allowed when another's rabbi says it is not. If you have a halachic question about something you have read here - please consult a legitimate halachic authority.

4. Please try to keep threads relevant. While some minor off-topic banter is acceptable, please try to keep the post relevate to the thread. Heavy banter makes people feel excluded, clutters up the thread, and doesn't help deal with the poster's problem.

If you have a question about any of these rules, please email me: Marla AT CalmKallahs.com

Thanks.